Parent Self-Care With Author & Expert Kristi Yeh

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In this week’s episode of the Parent Pod Podcast, we spoke to Parent Self-Care Expert Kristi Yeh about the ways parents can practice self-care, especially in the winter months.

Kristi Yeh is a parent of two, and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has been practicing in California for over ten years. She currently works in school-based mental health as a Wellness Coordinator at a public elementary school. Kristi has been passionate about self-care personally and professionally for years, which led her to start Parent Self-Care, write a book for parents about their wellness, and launch the Mental Mile podcast.

You can visit her online at https://parentselfcare.com/

And you can purchase her book Self-Care 101: Self-Care Inspiration for Busy Parents here.

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The Parent Pod podcast by Gymboree Play & Music is a weekly conversation that features various experts who are willing to share helpful tips for parents and grandparents on how to support their little ones during the first five years of life. Our podcast drives conversations around early childhood development and parenting strategies, with topics ranging from sleep training, and minimalist living to maternal mental health and postpartum depression.

5 Holiday Treats That Will Make You Go Mmmmm

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Whether you’re from the United States, Canada, Italy, or Mexico, one thing is for sure…food is a BIG DEAL. Especially during the holidays.

Since we’re focusing on traditions this month at Gymboree Play & Music, our team thought it would be cool to curate a list of traditional holiday cookies and treats from families around the world. 

And voila, here it is.  

Italian Almond Pizzelle Cookies

If you love fun baking appliances, then you’ll love making these buttery, almond-flavored cookies. They get their unique waffle design from a pizzelle maker. They cook in roughly 5-10 minutes. You can try the recipe here.

Whipped Cream Krumkake from Norway

These sweet treats are surprisingly easy to make. This recipe gives simple and clear step-by-step instructions that will walk you through the process required to create these beautifully intricate waffle cookies at home.

Rosette’s from Norway

These traditional deep-fried favorites are crisp and delicious with a delicate, lacy look. These intricate crispy treats are as delicious as they are beautiful. This cookie is sure to delight your little one. Check out the recipe here.

Khrustyky from Ukraine

This crispy, dainty pastry dusted with confectioners’ sugar has an eggy flavor similar to cream puffs. You can use this recipe to create this treat for your family.

Mexican Cinnamon Cookies

This 5 ingredient delight is sweet, simple and easy to make. You can head over here for the full recipe.

Reinventing life, traditions and hand-me-downs with Rent a Romper Founder Lauren Gregor

Episode Information

In this week’s episode of the Parent Pod Podcast, we spoke to Rent a Romper founder Lauren Gregor about her family traditions, her business, and her life as a mom of two boys.

Lauren Gregor is a mom, wife, strategy director, soccer coach, and entrepreneur living in California with her 2 children, husband and a desire to help save the planet. 

Check out her business Rent-a-Romper; a rental clothing subscription that ensures that you have the right clothes at the right time as your child grows. Her goal is to make parents’ lives easier while easing the negative effects that the fashion industry is having on the planet.

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The Parent Pod podcast by Gymboree Play & Music is a weekly conversation that features various experts who are willing to share helpful tips for parents and grandparents on how to support their little ones during the first five years of life. Our podcast drives conversations around early childhood development and parenting strategies, with topics ranging from sleep training, and minimalist living to maternal mental health and postpartum depression.

Gymboree Play & Music announces their new micro-partner program.

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2020 has been a year of ups and downs that have forced businesses to take a step back and see how to better serve their customers. Gymboree Play & Music is no exception. 

After we saw the true impact of the pandemic on parents, families, and small businesses, we wanted to do more to keep our customers connected, and to use our platform to introduce some of our friends to each of you. We hope that their services might make it a little easier for you and your family to navigate these trying times.

Today we’re happy to launch our “micro-partner” Rent a Romper, which is an environmentally-conscious clothing rental service for kids that repurposes gently-used clothing. Families can clear their closets and ship all of their hand-me-downs to their headquarters – for FREE. You can learn more about the partnership and their offering to our customers here.

This is just one of several micro-partnerships we’ve developed for 2021. Please subscribe or follow us on social media to learn about other partnerships that will be announced in the coming months.

The Secret to Mentally Strong Parenting with Amy Morin

Episode Information

In this week’s episode of the Parent Pod Podcast, we spoke to Amy Morin about the ways in which we can be more mentally strong as parents. Amy is a psychotherapist and the internationally bestselling author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do. Her books are translated into more than 40 languages. She’s also the host of The Mentally Strong People podcast.

You can learn more about her at https://amymorinlcsw.com/

About

The Parent Pod podcast by Gymboree Play & Music is a weekly conversation that features various experts who are willing to share helpful tips for parents and grandparents on how to support their little ones during the first five years of life. Our podcast drives conversations around early childhood development and parenting strategies, with topics ranging from sleep training, and minimalist living to maternal mental health and postpartum depression.

December Book Recommendations

This Month is All About Traditions

This December we’re celebrating the many ways families observe different traditions from around the world. 

What better time of year to explore the concept of “tradition” than the holiday season. At a time when the world is going through so many changes, it’s our traditions that have kept us anchored. 

This month we curated our book recommendations to help you and your child understand the importance of traditions, and why they’re important. See the full list below. 

Recommendations for Children

Global Babies

by The Global Fund for Children

You and your baby will love looking at these vibrant photographs of babies from all around the globe. From Guatemala to Bhutan and many places in between, get a quick snapshot of the daily life, traditions and clothing of babies from around the world. The simple text teaches that no matter where they come from, all babies everywhere are special and loved.

Let’s Celebrate Special Days Around the World

by Kate Depalma and Martina Peluso 

Learn all about 13 special days from around the world and the traditions that go along with them. “Let’s Celebrate” uses colorful, vibrant illustrations and rhyming text to explore holidays from several different cultures around the globe, like Kodomo no Hi in Japan, Carnival in Brazil, and more!

Chicken Soup, Chicken Soup

by Pamela Mayer  and Deborah Melmon 

Two grandmas, two traditions, two kinds of chicken soup and Sophie caught in the middle! She loves Bubbe’s Jewish chicken soup with kreplach. She also loves Nai Nai’s Chinese chicken soup with wontons. Read to find out how Sophie brings her whole family together to form a brand new family tradition.

Love and the Rocking Chair

by Diane Dillon  and Leo Dillon 

Colorful paintings illustrate this simple yet touching story that shows us tradition can come is all forms. A young couple of parents-to-be purchase a rocking chair for their nursery. As years go by, we see the little boy grow up and move away, the rocking chair left to collect dust in the attic. But the cycle begins again when the little boy, now a man, has a child of his own and the rocking chair is needed again. “Love and the Rocking Chair” is a beautiful reminder of how family love is passed on from generation to generation.

My Food, Your Food

by Lisa Bullard and  Christine M. Schneider 

This week is Food Week in Manuel’s class. Each student gets to talk about a kind of food that is special to them and their family. As we learn about different dishes from around the world, we discover that even when foods are different, they can still be alike. What food will Manuel share with his class.

Throw Your Tooth on the Roof : Tooth Traditions from Around the World

by Selby Beeler and G. Brian Karas 

Travel around the world and discover the surprising things children do when they lose a tooth. Selby B. Beeler spent years collecting traditions from every corner of the globe for this whimsical book, and G. Brian Karas adds to the fun, filling every page with humorous detail. He perfectly captures the excitement and pride that children experience when a tooth falls out.

Recommendations for Parents

The Joy of Family Traditions

by Jennifer Trainer Thompson 

 THE JOY OF FAMILY TRADITIONS offers more than 400 fresh ideas and creative approaches to cultivating birthday, anniversary, holiday, and other rite-of-passage and seasonal traditions that strengthen personal bonds and reflect a family’s individual style, spirituality, and values. It inspires and instructs families on how to create, personalize, adapt, and preserve relevant traditions that reflect how we live today. It explores the historical, cultural, and often quirky origins of holidays, customs, and milestones, both uncommon and familiar. And it includes holidays, holy days, annual events, once-in-a-lifetime occasions, and personal celebrations.

Danish Dinner Party: Traditions and Recipes

by Richard E. Klein 

More than a cookbook, Danish Dinner Party has everything you need to host an authentic Danish dinner for 12, including cherished customs from times gone by. Both inviting and entertaining, this book will teach you how to give a proper toast, sing a classic song, and delight your guests. Delicious, time-honored recipes are included for each course.

Author Richard Klein draws from his Danish-American childhood, as well as friends in Denmark, to share Danish history, customs, and a perfect meal plan. Illustrated with whimsical artwork and peppered with personal experiences, Danish Dinner Party will help you embrace the art of hygge and the comradery of a formal, yet intimate, party with your friends and family.

Good Luck Life: The Essential Guide to Chinese American Celebrations and Culture

by Rosemary Gong  and  Martin Yan 

Good Luck Life is the first book to explain the meanings of Chinese rituals and to offer advice on when and how to plan for Chinese holidays and special occasions such as Chinese weddings, the Red Egg and Ginger party to welcome a new baby, significant birthdays, and the inevitable funeral. Packed with practical information, Good Luck Life contains an abundance of facts, legends, foods, old-village recipes, and quick planning guides for Chinese New Year, Clear Brightness, Dragon Boat, Mid-Autumn, and many other festivals.

Written with warmth and wit, Good Luck Life is beautifully designed as an easily accessible cultural guide that includes an explanation of the Lunar Calendar, tips on Chinese table etiquette for dining with confidence, and dos and don’ts from wise Auntie Lao, who recounts ancient Chinese beliefs and superstitions. This is your map for celebrating a good luck life.

The Atlas of Christmas: The Merriest, Tastiest, Quirkiest Holiday Traditions from Around the World

by Alex Palmer 

Do you know that in Guatemala there’s a tradition to kick off the Christmas season, where revelers gather to set fire to piñatas? In Sweden, a popular figure in Christmas traditions is the Yule Goat, a rowdy, menacing character who demands gifts. And in Japan, a big bucket of Kentucky Fried Chicken has become the classic Christmas Day feast. These and many other global Christmas traditions are featured here in this delightful book. From decorations and activities to feasts and special treats, there’s a wide range of both lovely and unusual traditions from around the globe.

The Little Book of Jewish Celebrations 

by Ronald Tauber  and  Yelena Bryksenkova 

From lighting the menorah on Chanukah to standing under the chuppah at a wedding, every Jewish ritual reflects a time-honored practice passed down for generations. With a foil-stamped cover and a ribbon marker, this elegant volume shares the beloved stories and traditions behind Jewish celebrations, from year-round holidays to once-in-a-lifetime special events. Featuring lush illustrations that capture the heart of Jewish tradition as well as a glossary of important terms for each holiday, this little gift book is a treasure to be shared at any occasion—from bar and bat mitzvahs to Passover seders.

10 Best Toys for Early Childhood Development this Holiday Season

With the holidays quickly approaching, we know you’re being inundated with commercials featuring the latest toys from Lego, Disney and Hot Wheels. Before you finalize your list, we wanted to share our gift guide that includes toys that are educational and help your child or grandchild developmentally. 

We believe in the power of play, and toys that made our list will help your little one learn along the way.

From babies to toddlers to school-aged kids, here are our favorite options this season.

Best for Babies and Kids 0-5

First Bead Maze from Melissa & Doug

We’re kicking off our list with an oldie, but goodie. If you’ve been to any of our locations, then you know we carry Melissa & Doug products. We love the mission of their company and the quality of their toys. Not to mention their toys are designed for development. This is their First Bead Maze and it’s suitable for babies 12 months and up. It features brightly colored, multi-shaped beads that spin and slide along red and yellow wire pathways anchored by a strong suction cup base. It encourages color recognition, hand-eye coordination, and fine motor development through play!

Laugh & Learn Smart Stages Piggy Bank from Fisher Price

The Laugh & Learn Smart Stages Piggy Bank from Fisher Price is great for both babies and toddlers. This toy plays more than 40 songs, tunes and phrases to engage your child. This toy assists with fine motor coordination skills while putting the coins into the bank. As children get older, they can use it to count and add as well.

Spike the Fine Motor Hedgehog from Learning Resources

Spike the Fine Motor Hedgehog helps kids build fine motor skills as they restore the chunky, peg-shaped quills to the back of this friendly hedgehog as well as develop color recognition, sorting, and counting skills. It includes a hedgehog, 12 pegs and activity guide with fine motor, counting, and color activities. You can purchase it directly from them, or buy it here at Target for less.

The Symphony Croc Music Set from Haba

The Symphony Croc is perfect for families with two kids under 5 because it contains two mallets and the drum can be easily removed from the crocodile base for playtime duets.

This playful reptile fosters children’s musical development and encourages a sense of rhythm while honing fine motor skills. 

Magformers Mastermind Building Set 

Containing a wide variety of new magnetic shapes, Magformers let kids explore magnetic construction through modular creative play. This set contains 13 Basic shapes, combine these with accessories to build Vehicles, Houses and more! Perfect for STEM learning, each geometric shape contains magnets that never reject, so you’ll always hear Magformers click. This is suitable for kids three and up. We spotted it here at Target.

Little Genius Starter Kit by Osmo

This kit from Osmo splits the difference between screen time and a learning toy, since kids use hand-held pieces in conjunction with an iPad. They can use the kit to learn how to form letters, make shapes that move on the screen, and mix and match outfits for different characters. This is ideal for kids 3 and up. It’s available on Amazon here.

Crayola Color Chemistry Set

The Crayola Color Chemistry set comes with 18 science experiments that kids can do right out of the box, and then there are ideas for 32 more experiments you can do with the set and some additional, common household items. There are two sets: a basic chemistry set and a winter-themed one.

Forest Friends Discovery Tree from Fat Brain

This Discovery Tree from Fat Brain is a whole ecosystem full of sensory exploration excitement! All around and throughout this entire treetop play structure are all kinds of fascinating things and activities just waiting for your little one’s little hands to discover. Kids can spin and slide the snail, butterfly, and ladybug blocks all along the winding cutout tracks. Just on the other side, those same blocks are apples, tumbling down the branches!

Milestone Play Kits by Lovevery

Starting at only $36 a month, Lovevery offers play kits by development milestones. This is a perfect option for Grandparents or relatives who may not know what to buy that the store. You can send one by yourself, or as a family or group through their website here.

Mindware Imagination Magnets

Your little one will discover hours of entertainment with the MindWare Imagination Patterns. This fun and colorful puzzle is a great way for children to boost their fine motor and visual thinking skills. This is available at buy buy Baby, and it is suitable for kid 4 and up.

Honorable Mention

TubeLox is a life-sized STEM construction toy for all ages that allows kids to use their creativity while designing and building their own play. With this toy, fabricate anything from sizeable sturdy structures, to usable cars, homes and rocket ships. According to NAEYC, things for pretending and building—many blocks for building complex structures, transportation toys and construction sets are ideal for kids 3-6.

The only reason it didn’t make our list, is because it was so popular that they’ve already sold out for Christmas. If you don’t mind waiting until January, head over to their site to order yours.

50 Random Acts of Kindness to try on World Kindness Day

World Kindness Day is a global day that promotes the importance of being kind to each other, to yourself, and to the world. The purpose of World Kindness Day is to help everyone understand that compassion for others is what binds us all together.

Today we encourage you to allow your child to participate in the random acts of kindness campaign by doing something nice for someone.

Here are 50 random acts of kindness activities to get your family started.

  1. Send a card to an old friend.
  2. Hold the door open for someone.
  3. Share a toy or item they wouldn’t normally share with a sibling or friend.
  4. Donate to a cause anonymously.
  5. Return someone’s cart at the store.
  6. Send your teacher card or small gift to show you care.
  7. Leave a letter in a library book.
  8. Feed the birds.
  9. Leave happy notes around town.
  10. Volunteer your time.
  11. Call your grandparents and ask them about their childhood.
  12. Create activity bags for families of deployed soldiers.
  13. Let someone go ahead of you in line.
  14. Compliment a friend.
  15. Wash someone’s car.
  16. Write a thank you note for your mail carrier.
  17. Plant something.
  18. Bake dessert for a neighbor
  19. Walk dogs at the animal shelter.
  20. Check in on an elderly neighbor.
  21. Set up a cookies & cocoa station at your local community center and donate the profits.
  22. Send a card to a service member.
  23. Bury treasure at the playground.
  24. Set the table for dinner.
  25. Leave a small gift on someone’s doorstep.
  26. Smile at everybody. It’s contagious.
  27. Tell someone why they are special to you.
  28. Donate outgrown clothes.
  29. Buy a coffee for a stranger.
  30. Pass out stickers to kids waiting in line.
  31. Talk to someone new at school.
  32. Write chalk messages on the sidewalk.
  33. Shovel snow for a neighbor.
  34. Donate food to the food pantry.
  35. Bring flowers to your teacher.
  36. Tell a manager how good your service was.
  37. Compliment a stranger.
  38. Donate socks and supplies to the homeless shelter.
  39. Forgive and apologize to anyone you might have hurt.
  40. Call a friend you haven’t seen in a while to say hello.
  41. Tape money for the ice cream truck to a friend’s front door.
  42. Take treats to the fire station.
  43. Read a book to someone.
  44. Leave heads up pennies on the sidewalk.
  45. Donate books to a doctor’s office waiting room.
  46. Tell someone how much you love them.
  47. Say hello to everyone you see.
  48. Make someone else’s bed.
  49. Hold the door open for someone.
  50. Wave at policemen and firefighters.

Remember, there’s no right way to celebrate World Kindness Day. You can have your kids focus on one idea today, or many over time. We know kindness can be life-changing for your children and the people they interact with, and we believe that by participating in acts of kindness as a family or group can encourage long term kindness habits for your child, and the world.

5 Ways To Teach Children About Gratitude

Experts Agree, Thankfulness and Gratitude Lead To Happier Lives

For parents, teaching “thanks” may start by telling your child to simply say thank you, but as they grow-up instilling the larger concept of gratitude requires a little more thought.

On one hand, we can be “thankful” for the things we receive and the people who surround us, gratitude on the other hand is the sum of our appreciation for those things individually. That’s where it gets tricky for parents. Because, although most of us have our own understanding of what gratitude means for us personally, teaching children the nuances of silver linings and appreciation is a completely different story. And that, unfortunately, is where a lot of parents give up too soon or avoid any attempt to instill these values early on.

And we completely understand your frustration, but experts say it’s necessary.

A 2019 study published in the Journal of Happiness Studies found that gratitude is linked to happiness in children by age 5. This means helping your kids understand the idea of being thankful at a young age could help them grow up to be happier people.

So how exactly do you do it? Here’s 5 methods to get you started.

Share your Gratitude Each Day.

Taking five minutes during breakfast and during the bedtime routine to ask your child what they are thankful for allows them to reorient their mind and thoughts to what matters the most at the beginning and end of each day.

Don’t Force Kids to “Get Over” Things Quickly.

It’s always difficult to see your little one upset or angry, but allowing them to experience the range of emotions that comes with life experiences makes it easier for you to help them identify silver linings as they get older. If they are upset, you can ask them what they are grateful for in that moment, but don’t force them to have an answer just to please you. Let them do it in their own time.

Help Someone Less Fortunate.

Taking your child to volunteer on holidays or at special community events will not only help the child to understand that people have different life experiences, but it will also help them to see the ways that they’ve been fortunate. This can be something small like asking them to set aside a couple of dollars to donate to a cause, or taking them to pass out food or gifts during a holiday drive.

Create a Thankful Time Capsule.

A time capsule can literally just be a box that contains letters your child writes themselves at the beginning of each month or each year about the things they are thankful for. Creating this ritual can be helpful for them to understand how much their life shifts from year to year, and it can help them track their perspective around life events.

Be A Model for the Behavior Your Want to See.

It all starts at home. If you want your child to understand how to be grateful, then you need to model behavior that guides them through what gratitude should look like in day-to-day life. Give your kids a glimpse of why gratitude is important to you by openly sharing the things you’re grateful for, and why.

November Book Recommendations

Tis’ the season for gratitude and thanks. 

At Gymboree Play & Music we believe in teaching kids to see the world from a point of appreciation because we know that even in tough times, learning to look for the silver lining is a skill set that should be learned from an early age.

This month we curated our book recommendations around the concepts of gratitude and thanks to help you and your child incorporate these values into your daily lives.

See our recommendations below. 

Recommendations for Children

I Love to Gobble You Up!

By Sandra Magsamen

Take a moment to show your baby how grateful you are to have them in your life with this delightful book! Your little turkey will love the sturdy cardboard pages and soft felt feathers, and of course being “gobbled up” by your Thanksgiving cuddles!

1 2 3s of Thankfulness

By Patricia Hegarty & Summer Macon

From the same author as “ABCs of Kindness,” practice counting with your toddler as you teach them about the value of giving thanks and sharing gratitude. Together, we learn that “one little thank you can go a long, long way.”

Thank You, Mr. Panda!

By Steve Antony

Mr. Panda is so generous he is giving away gifts to all his animal friends. But his friends aren’t being particularly grateful. This heartwarming story helps teach little ones the importance of saying “thank you” and recognize it’s the thought behind the gift that counts the most. Toddlers will love Mr. Panda’s silly gifts and repeating the tag line, “It’s the thought that counts!”

Thanksgiving is for Giving Thanks

By Margaret Sutherland & Sonja Lamut

What is Thanksgiving for? It’s a time for food and family, and also a time for giving thanks! There is so much to be thankful for, and this charming book will give your toddler or preschooler some ideas of what they can be thankful for too!

We Are Grateful: Otsaliheliga

By Traci Sorell and Frané Lessac

“Otsaliheliga” is a Cherokee word used to express gratitude. Engage your preschooler in learning some Cherokee vocabulary as you read about the Cherokee traditions and celebrations that occur over the year. The book includes a glossary and the complete Cherokee syllabary to help you learn and pronounce the Cherokee words. See if you preschooler can repeat the words back to you as you learn together!

Zen Pig: The Art of Gratitude

By Mark Brown & Amy Lynn Larwig

Zen Pig teaches his friends about gratitude, compassion, and mindfulness in the first book of author Mark Brown’s “Zen Pig” series. It’s never too early to start learning the art of giving thanks! This book makes the concept of gratitude easier to understand for little ones. 

Recommendations for Parents

The Gratitude Diaries

by Janice Kaplan

In In this New York Times bestseller, Janice Kaplan spends a year living gratefully and transforms her marriage, family life, work and health. Her pioneering research was praised in People and Vanity Fair and hailed on TV shows including Today, The O’Reilly Factor, and CBS’s The Talk. On New Year’s Eve, journalist and former Parade Editor-in-Chief Janice Kaplan makes a promise to be grateful and look on the bright side of whatever happens. She realizes that how she feels over the next months will have less to do with the events that occur than her own attitude and perspective. Getting advice at every turn from psychologists, academics, doctors, and philosophers, she brings readers on a smart and witty journey to discover the value of appreciating what you have.

The Little Book of Gratitude

by  Dr. Robert Emmons

Gratitude is the simple, scientifically proven way to increase happiness and encourage greater joy, love, peace, and optimism into our lives.

Through easy practices such as keeping a daily gratitude journal, writing letters of thanks, and meditating on the good we have received, we can improve our health and wellbeing, enhance our relationships, encourage healthy sleep, and heighten feelings of connectedness.

Easily accessible and available to everyone, the practice of gratitude will benefit every area of your life and generate a positive ripple effect.

Thanks A Thousand

by A.J. Jacobs

Author A.J. Jacobs discovers that his coffee—and every other item in our lives—would not be possible without hundreds of people we usually take for granted.

By thanking these people face to face, Jacobs finds some much-needed brightness in his life. Gratitude does not come naturally to Jacobs—his disposition is more Larry David than Tom Hanks—but he sets off on the journey on a dare from his son. And by the end, it’s clear to him that scientific research on gratitude is true. Gratitude’s benefits are legion: It improves compassion, heals your body, and helps battle depression.

Living Life As A Thank You

by Nina Lesowitz  (Author), Mary Beth Sammons  (Author), Lee Woodruff (Foreword) 

Whatever is given — even a difficult and challenging moment — is a gift. Living as if each day is a thank-you can help transform fear into courage, anger into forgiveness, isolation into belonging, and another’s pain into healing. Saying thank-you every day inspires feelings of love, compassion, and hope. These ideas are the basis for this timely book. Authors Nina Lesowitz and Mary Beth Sammons present a simple, but comprehensive program for incorporating gratitude into one’s life, and reaping the many benefits that come from doing so.

Gratitude

by Oliver Sacks 

During the last few months of his life, he wrote a set of essays in which he movingly explored his feelings about completing a life and coming to terms with his own death.

“It is the fate of every human being,” Sacks writes, “to be a unique individual, to find his own path, to live his own life, to die his own death.”

Together, these four essays form an ode to the uniqueness of each human being and to gratitude for the gift of life.